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Is there anything more exciting than beginnings?  A new home, a first date, the first day of school, your first car, your first born.

And so it is with us.  Perfect Day is a new beginning for us and for you.  We're excited at the prospect of being a place where you can shop with trust, where you can find something special that will be it's own new beginning for your son or daughter.

Please take your time and browse and try to imagine our products being used by your child.  How does it look and feel to you.  If you get a positive image, that's good.

 

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A HALLOWEEN STORY

There’s a story on the internet about a boy’s first Halloween after being diagnosed with autism.

When this little guy was younger, his mom dressed him in really fun costumes, but after the diagnosis at age 4, he refused to wear any costume at all.

And this was a family that went all-out for the 31st.  The entire house and yard was decorated, and Mom went to great lengths to plan costumes for the entire family, with themes like Ghostbusters and comic book superheroes.

On the day of the school’s Halloween party, this Mom packed her son’s costume, with the hope that with the prompting of a teacher or a class mate, he might change his mind.

And Mom was in the audience when all the kids from Pre-K to the 5th grade entered the gym in parade formation, all in costume, with the sole exception of her son.  He was in his gym clothes, shorts and a tank top.

Her mind went to all sorts of places, but nowhere good:  “OMG, what are the other moms thinking. That I don’t care? Too poor?  Forgetful? 

When they got home, things went even more downhill.  Because of all the pressure he was feeling about The Costume, he refused to go trick or treating. 

The next morning, after thinking about all the events of the previous day, she concluded: “This was not my finest moment as a parent. I had focused so much time and energy on creating a Halloween experience that would meet every Pinterest expectation that I forgot to focus on what was really going on in the mind and world of my child”

This AHA moment was reinforced by the encouraging notes and emails from teachers and other parents. Her son’s teacher called to say how proud she was of him “….for staying with his class, holding hands of two of his closest classmates, and smiling through the entire event”.

In her concern for the way she wanted it to be, she had forgotten how to appreciate the way it was.

Let’s try to keep this lesson close to our hearts this Hallowe’en.   Keep your cool about what and when your child chooses to wear while trick or treating.  Sure you might get some questions from quizzical people wondering about your child’s costumes, but we’re used to people who sometimes cross the line of tactful curiosity.

All your child really needs for Halloween is you. 

And something reflective or bright.

 

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Blog Post: Giving Thanks

 

 

When you Google  ‘Autism and Thanksgiving’, you’ll find a lot articles with very good practical suggestions on how to navigate this holiday without creating needless stress for your autistic child. 

But the concept of ‘giving thanks’ at Thanksgiving is harder to find, and often harder to express.  

Adrienne, who writes the blog ‘Whole New Mom’, said it very well in her post “Why I am Thankful for---Autism”.  What follows are excerpts from this post, but you can read the whole thing here:  

https://wholenewmom.com/health-concerns/giving-thanks-thanksgiving-aspergers/ 

“….along the path of healing that we have been on, some days I think, “How would I really feel if I were to wake up and find that my son was completely healed?

And I realize that, I am thankful for autism.  Or rather, I am thankful for the parts of my son that have been made special by his affliction. 

Here is some of what I mean: 

Honesty 

When my son says something, he means it.  There really is no wondering with him.  Try to get that with any other kid (or person, for that matter.). 

Loyalty 

My son sticks close with a fierce loyalty to trustworthy people.  No matter how many times I (and my husband) blow it with him (lose patience, yell when we should hug, etc.), he still loves us.  He sees past our failings and sees our hearts and continues loving and forgiving us.  No matter what. 

Inquisitiveness  

Like me, he wants to know about everything.  He asks questions ad nauseum and they can go on and on.  I get frustrated regularly about the onslaught of questions, but truth be told, if he stopped asking, I would miss hearing what his inquisitive soul was pondering. 

Healing Help 

This “crisis” of autism has helped me to see other health issues in our family and learn how to better deal with them.  Figuring out how to better help my son has helped me to better help my entire family.  And, as a result, it has led me to learn about better health overall.  I've read books and scoured the internet endlessly for health information that has helped me to help him.  And us.  And hopefully now others.  Like you. 

Community  

Because of autism, I have made many friends whom I never would have known otherwise, both locally and on the web.  Autism groups, bloggers, etc.  I am so thankful for the inspiration and friendship of others who are on the same path as us.  A big hug to all of you from me.”

 

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Blog Post: The Benefits of Routine

Routines play an important role in the lives of people with autism. The everyday world as experience by neurotypicals, with its flashing lights, loud sounds and frenzied movement of crowds can be overwhelming to people with autism.

Routines help to create stability and order.

It just so happens that people with autism are naturally drawn to routines, and are motivated to repeat them. The steps in a particular routine, whether the task is brushing teeth or getting dressed, should be presented with a clear beginning and end, and the total routine is often learned quickly.

Since people with autism are naturally motivated to repeat routines, the completion of the routine is in itself reinforcing.

Many tools to aid in structuring routines are available.  These include step by step flash cards, and reward charts.  See our excellent selection here:  

http://www.perfectdaystore.com/category_13/Organization-Home-and-School.htm

 

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Blog Post: Why is Play Important?

...for ALL children
and IMPERATIVE for children with special needs?

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  “…play deprivation is a kind of emotional and multisensory starvation…Play is part of our original equipment, but it has to be nurtured to develop.  Normally we play.  When we don’t, something has gone very, very wrong, and nonplayers will suffer a number of effects.”  ~ Dr. Stuart L. Brown, Founder, The National Institute for Play

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Top 20 Reasons to Encourage Play for ALL children

    1. Play advances many cognitive skills like learning to focus and paying attention to details.
    2. Play produces an active, alert, but non-stressed frame of mind that benefits a child greatly.
    3. Play opportunities help a child develop problem-solving, organizational and planning skills.
    4. Play promotes both long-term and short-term memory.
    5. Play stimulates language, negotiation and communication skills.
    6. Play teaches a child how the world works from gravity to how things move, float or fly.
    7. Play experiences allow a child to explore symbolic play, imitation and his own creativity.
    8. Play allows a child to build confidence, one trip down a slide or throw of a ball at a time.
    9. Play provides the feedback a child needs to develop self-knowledge and self-esteem.
    10. Play is an excellent way for a child to connect to nature and to explore its many facets.
    11. Active play can enhance a child’s mood, coping abilities and defuse emotionally charged events.
    12. Play teaches the cornerstones of relationship building, cooperation and compromise.
    13. Leadership along with group skills are learned through team or collective play.
    14. Active play promotes a healthy body for children and lowers their risk of obesity.
    15. Play promotes brain development through the use of both the body and mind.
    16. Play can teach a child the lessons of strengthening and balancing his body and coordinating his  hands and eyes.
    17. Play stimulates resiliency by prompting the child to try again and learn patience towards self and others.
    18. Play fosters courage to swing higher and jump farther.
    19. Play teaches empathy by allowing a child to explore the role of both winner and loser.
    20. Play leads to engagement and enjoyment that provides a child with both physical and emotional release.

 

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